This quote comes my way today and brings a smile to lips and cells.

Yes, Mary Oliver, yes!

Let me keep my distance, always, from those who think they have the answers. Let me keep company always with those who say “Look!” and laugh in astonishment, and bow their heads.

Our family is in a discussion of death these days.  It began with the passing of Thich Nhat Hanh and then my daughter-in-law’s mother.  What does each of us want, this moment, now?

How do we deal with grief? 

For comfort, here’s Thich Nhat Hanh’s wonderful words on mother.

“When my mother died…”

“The day my mother died I wrote in my journal, “A serious misfortune of my life has arrived.” I suffered for more than one year after the passing away of my mother. But one night, in the highlands of Vietnam, I was sleeping in the hut in my hermitage. I dreamed of my mother. I saw myself sitting with her, and we were having a wonderful talk. She looked young and beautiful, her hair flowing down. It was so pleasant to sit there and talk to her as if she had never died. When I woke up it was about two in the morning, and I felt very strongly that I had never lost my mother. The impression that my mother was still with me was very clear. I understood then that the idea of having lost my mother was just an idea. It was obvious in that moment that my mother is always alive in me.

I opened the door and went outside. The entire hillside was bathed in moonlight. It was a hill covered with tea plants, and my hut was set behind the temple halfway up. Walking slowly in the moonlight through the rows of tea plants, I noticed my mother was still with me. She was the moonlight caressing me as she had done so often, very tender, very sweet… wonderful! Each time my feet touched the earth I knew my mother was there with me. I knew this body was not mine but a living continuation of my mother and my father and my grandparents and great-grandparents. Of all my ancestors. Those feet that I saw as “my” feet were actually “our” feet. Together my mother and I were leaving footprints in the damp soil.

From that moment on, the idea that I had lost my mother no longer existed. All I had to do was look at the palm of my hand, feel the breeze on my face or the earth under my feet to remember that my mother is always with me, available at any time.”

Thich Nhat Hanh


This morning I’m with the beauty and wisdom in this Carol video, O Holy Darkness.

I remember taking a course in Child Psychology at UCLA when I was 18.  In 1968, we were propagandized that the “Communists” were programming their children. We had to fight back against that threat. Of course, our own propaganda was that we were the good guys and our children were allowed and given complete freedom and possibility in this “land of the free”.  

Angela Davis, an avowed Communist, came to teach and there was turmoil and concern. In order to work as a tour guide on campus, I had to sign that I was not a Communist.  I doubt I knew what that meant at the time. I knew my father believed in the Domino Theory and not wanting another World War II, he thought we were right to be in Vietnam.  He didn’t live long enough to learn the truth of that.

Now, we are trying to teach our children a more whole history.  Watch this beautiful movement into the embrace, the holy embrace, of wholeness.


I’m writing postcards reminding or perhaps encouraging Democrats who voted in Virginia in 2020 to vote again in the upcoming VA election.

I think of the joy of writing a letter, hand-writing, then folding and placing it in an envelope to sail through the mail, and then, envision it unfolded and opened by another.

Shared touch that seems different than a text or email though information both ways is shared.

I’ve been noticing how sunlight lights and sparkles the line of quartz in rocks I treasure.  I have a children’s book that describes rocks like this as “Wishing Rocks”. Therefore, I move my finger along the line circling the middle of the rock and wish even as I imagine what it is like to be enfolded in a different kind of stone.

Each morning I read a poem written daily by Rosemary Wahtola Trommer.  Her son took his life recently, and she took a break from writing and sharing her poems, and now she writes of love and grief.  Her poems break open my heart, and sometimes I can’t go all the way through, and then, because I know it is essential, I do. 

You can read her poems here:



The news – what can I say, but poetry comforts me in every way.

Yesterday a friend introduced me to this poem, “Above the Paradox Valley”.  May it allow stillness to open the wisdom in the spirit of your dance.  

Inside Out

Yesterday a friend shared with me three questions Norman Fischer asked her Sangha to discuss in small groups on Zoom.

  1. What is the difference between inner and outer life?
  2. If there is a difference for you, what does the difference feel like?
  3. Again, if so, what would it be like to bring the two together?

I’m with these questions.  Considering them, I become porous, and there is no difference between in and out.  I think of the Pixar movie Inside Out.  How much of what we see and interpret comes from inside, not out?

This morning lying in bed I listened to birds as they chirped the morning to light.  I felt my skin touching in and reaching out, receiving and negotiating like an airport controller leading planes to land and take off.  

I visualized myself as an airport, wondering if planes have attachment to their hub, if they prefer gathering with other planes painted like them, or enjoy the diversity of different colors and patterns on planes.  Of course, planes aren’t “human”, and yet, what is this world in which we immerse?  What is our response to different colors and shapes?

Today I learn that on the International Space Station, experiments are being conducted with a fifth state of matter.  We know about gases, liquids, solids, and plasmas, but in a lab, 25 years ago, scientists created a fifth state of matter, Bose-Einstein Condensates.

According to LiveScience, “when a group of atoms is cooled to near absolute zero, the atoms begin to clump together, behaving as if they were one big “super-atom.””  This way to explore the quantum world is more easily explored in the microgravity environment aboard the ISS.  

What an exciting addition to all that’s happening here on earth.  

The Russian novelist Fyodor Dostoyevsky said that “the degree of civilization in a society can be judged by entering its prisons.”   Clearly, we in the U.S. have a long way to go, and yet, I’m inspired by Wendell Berry.

The Real Work

It may be that when we no longer know what to do

we have come to our real work,

and that when we no longer know which way to go

we have come to our real journey.

– Wendell Berry

We’re in this together my friends as we welcome new ways of understanding and coming together as this fifth state of matter is explored.

Morning Sky – the moon is there too –

On the ridge

What Is Love?

Windows are open and I wake to a symphony of singing birds.  The moon is a light in the softness of the morning blue sky, a beacon demonstrating change.

I’m with the sharing of a friend who went to a rally in Amherst, Massachusetts.  He writes: 

Towards the end, we were asked to take a knee and stay in silence for 8 minutes and 46 seconds in memory of George Floyd. This is how long the policeman pressed his knee onto his neck until George died. About 1,500 people or so were completely silent for that time. Ann and I have been sitting for 8 minutes and 46 seconds twice daily since and we plan to do so in the coming days and weeks.

I can’t stop thinking about those 8 minutes and 46 seconds.  That’s a long time.

I see how important it is for each of us to honor that amount of time each day, as we imagine what it was for George Floyd and as we give thanks for this flow of breath in and out, this beautiful exchange.

Here’s a beautiful essay to answer the question What Is Love?

Click below:

In this moment my favorite response to the question is this:

“Being met with a dustpan when you’re holding a broom.”

Morning Moon

Bud to Flower – opening when it’s time

Sensory Awareness

I came to Sensory Awareness in 1993 and for me, it’s been a lifeline, a lifeline of fluidity and connection.

Here’s a beautiful offering and taste.

Find a comfortable place to watch and participate as Stefan leads us From Isolation to Connection.


Two weeks ago, Monday, May 25th, George Floyd was murdered by a police officer.  Two others restrained him, and a fourth kept help away.

This incident, unlike so many, has ignited protests and forced those of us who are White to look at our privilege. 

Here in the U.S. I may have taken my privilege for granted but when I was in Nepal in 1993, it was moment by moment clear.  The color of my skin set me apart, elevated me, protected me.  When I was in the mountains in the Everest region,  I was allowed into places the local Native people were not.  I was “special”.  I hope that’s changed.  

When my children were young, I was a Terwilliger Nature Guide, trained to spot snakes and plants, and shout out just like her, “Something Special”, and yet, of course, everything is special.  A weed is a plant growing where someone chooses not to want it.  We now know the nutritional value of dandelions.  Many always did.  

Yesterday I was guided into my body to feel what’s going on for me.  At first, I felt my jaw drop down into a pouch like a pelican pouch.  Putting my thoughts there, monkey mind, I could feel the draining out of excess like water, but also how thoughts could be digested, used as needed, and eliminated as purely waste which most are.

Now, the murder of a man on the street is asking us, requiring us, to pay attention.  We’re noticing our responses, habits, thoughts.  Difficult as this time has been, I am awake.  I wake in the morning, alert, feeling myself 360 degrees around like a tree.  There is no front and back, no separation.  I’m immersed in a world that asks me to be awake to it, to shine a light on my shadow and examine how I am in this world, my relationship to where I live and how I connect, listen, and receive, so I can be clear in how I give.

What I felt yesterday when I paused to feel is that I’m bruised inside.  This is trauma for all of us as we come together to heal wounds visible and invisible. This is no attempt to compare wounds, or how each of us bleeds, but simply to say my current mantra is Thich Nhat Hanh’s poem, “Please Call Me by My True Names”.  It carries the compassion needed to heal our times.

Our Healing Journey

At the age of 28, my friend Elaine was the whistleblower on the many years of sexual abuse of young men by the minister of Cameron House in Chinatown, San Francisco, Dick Wichman.

This is a beautiful tribute and guide to healing a community, a community of those who were victims, then, survivors, and now thrivers, and those who were and are affected in their love and care for them.

Watch the video on the website in tears and listen, as that is what is asked of us, to listen to the stories of those who were abused, to literally see with new and clear eyes.

Abuse of one is abuse of us all, and many in this community were abused, and come together now in courage, communion, and connection to share their stories and heal.



This morning to shake off the news of recent days I drove to Rodeo Beach but then didn’t feel up for ocean waves so paused at the lagoon and sat quietly hoping to see otters.  I saw a gathering of gulls splashing away, and a duck gliding by.

Children passed by guided on nature trips but mainly it was quiet as I watched the change in light and waves.

The words of this poem by Wendell Berry came to me.  

The Peace of Wild Things

When despair for the world grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.