Reflecting on the Gifts of Living

Last night the half moon increased the gold in its light as it moved across the darkening, then, black clear sky.  This morning fog rests momentarily on the ridge It dips down into the valley as though licking a spoonful of sweet before it dissolves.

I watch and understand transition, embrace and release as I dip and sip this moving change of form, this transformation of matter to air.  I appreciate the gift in not knowing when that final sip will come.

Yesterday Marlene and I took the train from San Rafael to Santa Rosa.  It’s called a Smart train which is ironic since it’s path is too short to be of much use to commuters who sit stopped on the freeway as the train moves along passing tidal ponds, pools, and marsh filled with parent and baby birds.  

It’s a landscape of aliveness, and aliveness sparks inside the train too, as separate lives unite in moving along past hills, trees, parking lots, businesses, and homes.   As seniors we have special pricing and seats, and I appreciate that as I sit erect, representing youth in maturity, as garbed in my years, I could be wearing diamonds, silk, velvet, and lace, rather than sandals, sweater and pants.  My spine stacks erect, wisdom represented in the grace of unknowing aligned. 

We exit the train and walk, turning this way and that, to a restaurant Marlene found on-line when she Googled patio seating.  We arrive to learn the outside seating is full.

Well, there is an advantage to the look of disappointment on faces our age so we are quickly ushered to a private garden where leaves are brushed off a small table to be replaced with cloth napkins, water, tableware, and bread.  Our attentive waiter brings us all we need, including a finale of cannoli as delicate and airy as the fog I view now.

At the table, Marlene hands me a copy of the poem “What the Living Do” by Marie Howe.  She offers it as support for my brother’s passing. I wait to read it until I get home as I prefer not to show emotion in public.

Home, I read and finish with:

“I am living.  I remember you.”

Sipping Within


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Noticing Smaller Paths

Yesterday I walked to a friend’s house. I usually walk through the park aware of destination. Yesterday I was stunned to see, truly see the path to the park. I didn’t even walk all the way into the park, too absorbed with all there was to see and be, so I walked partway in, sat, walked back. Today I think of veins, the teeny-tiniest ones, each filled with journey and path.

Entering


A place to sit


Crossing a Bridge





Holy, Holy, Holy

This morning I took Steve to the 6:00 Airporter and walked along the marsh. Morning photos speak of peace.

Sunrise over Strawberry



A Willet



The tidal path – willets in flight

Reflecting

Ripening Dreams



Unity

Today I ask myself: Am I at a fork in the road? 

The answer comes: No, I’m a spoon, held in a rounded cup. 

I surrender to the words of Rainer Maria Rilke.

If we surrendered 

to earth’s intelligence, 

we could rise up rooted, like trees.

I knead the soil within, open knots and loosen “nots”, assemble unity.  Marie Curie’s words radiate through:

Nothing in life is to be feared.  It is only to be understood.

Smoothing the waves


Sunflowers as Teachers

The fog is a tight wrap this first Sunday in July, and yet I wake thinking of sunflowers.

Yesterday I learned two friends lost their siblings.  One lost her twin.  

I’ve stopped counting the days since my brother passed, months now, but found myself expanding out into loss, into an ability to be a circle of petals rather than a tightly held bud of pain and grief.

Last week I joined Steve in his Alexander Technique session.  In my first attempt to come down and sit on a stool, I felt fear still held in my knees from the accident where I broke bones in both feet and couldn’t walk.  I find myself wanting to honor all that is true for me – fear, grief, anger, love. I want to receive the changes as they come.

May this be so for this collection of matter animated spirit today.

Love, Peace, and Ease.

Sunflowers share a vase – come together and part



Mergansers at the marsh – photo by Bob Dresser, recently passed away





Interdependence

For the celebration of Interdependence, we gathered as a family at my son Jeff and his wife Jan’s home in San Jose.  Their home and yard are serene with Senna, a loving rescue greyhound, a garden and view of open land. A short walk to the top of a nearby hill opens up a vista that is the perfect place to watch firework displays from all over the South Bay.  Last night, the Fourth of July, I swiveled my head like an owl trying to catch each wondrous opening of color and sparks.

The crescent moon turned golden as it began to sink into the now smoky, as though saged, evening air.  The moon felt close, like a guardian, a harbinger of hope. The gathering on the hill consisted of a variety of ages and languages.  Children wore headbands of light and ran around freely, no fear.

Today I sink into the truth of interdependence, bounced as though in a hammock to my cells opening to the cells of plants, recognizing the value in the difference in our cell walls.  I sink into silence and stillness; receive.

In that, I suggest with kindness that only senility can explain someone stating that the army took over airports in 1775.  Such a person needs mental health care.

Home now, loaded with produce from Jeff and Jan’s gardens, I give thanks for abundance in my life, and recognition of, and celebration of change.  

Summer hills of gold viewed from Jeff and Jan’s yard


Buddha nests in the gazebo, harvesting and merging dark and light






Morning Mourning

My sons are support as I deal with transition and grief.  They hold a container for me. We three love the book The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett.  We read it aloud when they were young.  Again, this morning I read the part where the robin directs her to the key and then to the ivy-hidden door.

I sit with that now, with gardens and doors.   

Peer into Roses and Bowls



Rocks or Doors?



Airing Out: Receiving Beauty and Power in My Views

I’m reading the Lost Children Archive, a novel,  by Valerie Luiselli.

The book is about refugee children coming to our country to escape their own. They are children “who have lost the right to a childhood”.   

The novel weaves a personal story with the horrifying and tragic plight of these children. 

I learn of Stephen Haff, who has opened a one-room schoolhouse in Brooklyn.  It’s called Still Waters in a Storm, and that is what it is.

His students who are immigrants, or children of immigrants, mostly of Hispanic origin, ranging in age from five to seventeen, are taught Latin, classical music, and how to scan poems and understand rhythm and meter.  The children learn parts of Paradise Lost by heart and understand it.  He and his students do a collective translation of Don Quixote from Spanish to English.

I learn of a little girl, eight or nine years old, arguing passionately over the “exact way” to translate these words:

“When life itself seems lunatic, who knows where madness lies? Perhaps to be too practical is madness. To surrender dreams – this may be madness.”

“To surrender dreams – this may be madness.”

I learn about Steven Feld and Murray Schafer who “thought that the sounds people make, in music or in language, were always echoes of the landscape that surrounded them.” 

“In Papua New Guinea, Feld had first recorded funerary weeping and ceremonial songs of the Bosavi people in the late 1970’s, and he later understood that the songs and weeping he had been sampling were actually vocalized maps of the surrounding landscapes, sung from the shifting, sweeping viewpoint of birds that flew over these spaces, so he started recording birds. After listening to them for some years, he realized that the Bosavi understood birds as echoes or “gone reverberations” – as absence turned into a presence; and, at the same time, as a presence that makes an absence audible. The Bosavi emulated bird sounds during funeral rites because birds were the only materialization in the world that reflected absence. Bird sounds were, according to the Bosavi, and in Feld’s words, “the voice of memory and the resonance of ancestry”.

Bird sounds – “the voice of memory and the resonance of ancestry”.

Those I’ve lost come to me as birds, my mother as a cardinal, my brother as a Great Blue Heron. My brother passed 79 days ago and still there’s an ache, a continuing  awareness of what we shared. I listen to, and watch for birds. They line my landscape and open seams.

R. Murray Schafer, best known for his World Soundscape project, wrote that “hearing is a way of touching at a distance”.

I listen to birds, touched at a distance I might not be able to imagine. I trust in touch.

Tiger sleeps next to me. He’s not a bird but his purring touches and heals.


Response

Each year I reverence this day, the last day of the first six months.  I wake and listen – birds, silence, a breath of wind, the metal of the wind chime tapping slowly enough to separate its notes into a wholeness inviting me into my own.  

I’ve purposely left this day open, open to what comes, with space between the metal bars of time, open so the wind can move through, twining, twisting, turning, evening out the breath.  

I feel emergence from a tactile dome in which I’ve been feeling my way and now I come into spaciousness and light.  There is breath, movement in and out, a landscape aware of and including me. I open shutters, let division go.

It’s the 78th day since my brother passed.  I planned to stop keeping track but something draws me back in to the ups and downs and ins and outs and yet this morning all blends gently as one.

What moves in me now as I listen to birds call?   

In reading one book, I come across another: As Consciousness Is Harnessed to Flesh by Susan Sontag.  The title is enough.

I look out on a redwood tree rising to fill my view, consider it as consciousness becoming flesh, needles sprightly in the softness of the breeze, branches rocked by the prancing rush of squirrels.

In this moment, I understand the words of Elias Amidon.  “The love you are made of will breathe you in.”

Two rocks reminding me of how wisdom rests in nesting owls

Let’s Sage the Planet

This morning I woke aware of celebrating the moisture in my eyes. I couldn’t immediately put my contacts in. I sat with my sweetheart of a cat Bella and allowed the relationship between eyes, wetness, and eyelid to unfold. Far out? Crazy? Well, pleasurable, for sure. I gave myself time to wake. I touched each finger to my face, feeling the pulse of heart through fingers and face.

I came to the computer to read an article in the LA Times by Mary McNamara titled “Ignore Marianne Williamson at Your Peril”.

I was struck by this paragraph:

All of which was pretty much in sync with what everyone else was saying. It just seemed a bit more, well, wacky when Williamson said it. Perhaps because she didn’t cradle every statement in a litany of statistics, use every opportunity to catalogue her previous experience (she may be Oprah’s spiritual advisor but she also founded Project Angel Food) or repeatedly trot out an example of how [insert topic being addressed here] was “personal” to her.

When I was first asked to donate money to the presidential campaign of Marianne Williamson, I scoffed.  Though I knew she was the original author of the words so often attributed to Nelson Mandela I wondered how many did.

Then I watched both nights of the debates and saw how she was ignored.  I saw her made fun of for wanting to “sage” the planet, but today I sit with the definitions of sage.  a profoundly wise person; a person famed for wisdom, someone venerated for the possession of wisdom, judgment, and experience.

Maybe that is what the planet needs right now.  Love trumps hate, and as Marianne said before Nelson Mandela: 

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?

There are many ways to branch. Let’s give her a chance.