I’m reading The Grieving Brain, The Surprising Science of How We Learn From Love and Loss by Mary-Francis O’Connor.
I’m struck by these words. She’s talking about penguins and how a penguin couple bonds. She then writes, “In humans as well, it is because your loved one existed that certain neurons fire together and certain proteins are folded in your brain in particular ways. It is because you loved one lived, and because you loved each other, that means when the person is no longer in the outer world, they still physically exist – in the wiring of the neurons of your brain.“
I love that.
I woke this morning aware of the complexity of flowers, and the beauty we share as they unfold, exult, and then, the petals fall away. Perhaps, each noticing of the change, this reception of cohering, inviting, filling, and letting go, also molds our brains to better hold even as we’re letting go.